“Accept and build…”
It was my sophomore year of high school. Our fourth period theatre teacher, David Catanzarite, was discussing the fundamentals of improv. He explained that during improv, you must always accept whatever circumstance your scene partner brings into the developing scene and build on it to create a story. An “anything goes” sort of concept. Not only did this create some hilarious classroom moments, but as I’ve navigated through life’s lessons, I’ve often heard the echo of an eccentric bald Italian man reminding me to accept and build.
Life is full of unexpected changes, things that maybe were never meant to happen by your timeline…you lost someone, your family fell apart, your life lost direction, etc. We have daydreams about how we want our future to be, but rarely envision the roads we must travel to reach our destination. Even when we do, when something devastating happens, it is never a part of our plan. We never saw it in the vision. We have little time to prepare before a whirlwind of emotions and responsibility has us pulled in all directions. Situations can become paralyzing, overwhelming, scary, frustrating, confusing, hurtful, so on and so forth. We can become so preoccupied with “handling life” that we forget about the person who’s living it, and what our goals were. When you’re hit with the unexpected..
Accept and build.
To fight your growth is to fight yourself. Despite what you might think in times of chaos, it is time for this to be happening and you can handle it. You’re right where you’re meant to be, baby. We are all students and teachers in this life. In whatever situation you’ve gone through, you’ve always been one of the two, and either one is an honor – even when it hurts. We don’t have a choice when it comes to pain. Things are going to hurt. But YOU don’t have to suffer. Learn to love your growing pains. They are what is creating the best version of you. Accept the lessons and obstacles that you’re given. They’re an opportunity to grow. The challenges you face can only reward you.
“Be like water making it’s way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.” – Bruce Lee
We can take some wisdom from our friend Bruce Lee – if you do not fight, do not resist, you will discover new truths. You will exhaust your heart and soul trying to change a circumstance you have no control over – just trust that this process is bringing you to the greatest good and it will have no choice but to deliver. Easier said the done, but practice makes perfect, love.
Look at some of your greatest accomplishments…what were the lessons that inspired them? How have your growing pains gotten you to where you are today?